If you want to know what it feels like not having a woman around for a mother, ask an orphan, then you will realize what a blessing it is growing up in the presence of your mom. Indeed! women are the nucleus of every behavior of human being. Its no wonder the Prophet (SAW) was reported to have said “he who trains a woman trains a nation and he who trains a man, trains a family”. In this light, it is pertinent to inculcate the Islamic tradition that enhances the well-being of our women and future mothers. This article looks into strengthening the relationship with our mothers and below are few questions that will help you evaluate yourself:
1. When was the last time you checked on your mom?
2. Do you think your mom is happy with you?
3. Have you ever said “Uff” to your mom? “Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt (Uff), nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: ‘My Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood’” (Quran 17:23-24).
4. What is it that your mom really wants to have?
5. How much do you know about your mom’s mother?
6. What might be the five things your mom really doesn’t want you to do? Abdullah ibn Amr related that the Messenger of Allah said, may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him: The major sins are to believe that Allah has partners, to disobey one’s parents, to commit murder, and to bear false witness. (Bukhari, Muslim).
7. What are three things that make your mom happy or sad?
8. How many minutes do you engage in “quality talk” with your mom in a week? 9. When was the last time you cooked for your mom?
10. When was the last time you gave your mom a gift? Aisha narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Exchange gifts with one another, for they remove ill feelings from the hearts.” (Tirmidhi)
These are only a few and I bet many of us will be caught in guilt, which is the main objective of the article and also as a reminder to ourselves that our mothers are the most precious people in the world. May Allah (s.w.t) make us among those whose mums are pleased with them both in this world and the hereafter. Amin!