When a man is having a haraam (an unlawful) relationship with a lady who is not his mahram, he is first of all committing treachery of the privileges of Allah before it is a disloyalty of the privileges of his spouse. The Muslim is bound by an agreement with his Lord, and what he is required to do is to satisfy that contract and not break it. In addition, this is not what the individual is charged to do in light of the endowments that his Lord has presented to him. Allah has favoured him with great wellbeing, prosperity and a spouse and youngsters, either now or soon, in sha Allah.
The best approach to show appreciation for these favours is not to waste this great wellbeing and prosperity in haraam associations with non-mahram ladies, and the best approach to show appreciation for the gift of the spouse and kids is not by ignoring them and breaking ties with them. Allah has guaranteed to the individuals who offer gratitude expanded favors and He cautions the individuals who are selfish for endowments of an extreme discipline, as He says in the holy Quran: “And (remember) when your Lord proclaimed: If you give thanks (by accepting Faith and worshipping none but Allah), I will give you more (of My Blessings), but if you are thankless (i.e. disbelievers), verily! My Punishment is indeed severe” [Ibraaheem 14:7].
Although it is emotionally traumatizing to be cheated on, there are a couple of ways to resolve the situation by with the help of Allah. It is important that the couple involved still love each other. People cheat on their spouses for different reasons. Although there is no excuse for sin, divorce is discouraged in Islam. For that reason, a woman might have to try her best to stop her husband from continuing this sinful and horrible act. Here are a few tips:
#1. Be more loving
You should try to treat him compassionately and don’t miss the mark in treating him generously; you should adorn yourself for him, wear your best garments and make a lovely climate for him in the house, since he might miss that largely or partially. You should also praise him and scold him, and caution him against keeping up his haraam activities.
You should also disclose to him what his discipline will be with Allah in the Hereafter, or in the Hereafter and this world; without a doubt you should caution him that Allah may punish him for such sin as to his family, as he might be tried with marriage to a lady, or with having a little girl, who does with men what he is doing with ladies – what will his response be all things considered?
#2. Keep it a secret
You should not tell numerous individuals about what your husband is doing, in light of the fact that the essential standard is to hide sins that are obscure. What we need is what will repair his ways, not what might be taken as a way to proceed what he is doing of submitting sin.
#3. Keep him busy
Fill his time with valuable and advantageous things, and don’t abandon him when he is distant from everyone else with his shaytaan! His every day timetable ought to be full, either with demonstrations of love, for example, maintaining ties of family relationship or going to Islamic study circles, or he ought to be occupied with common matters that are useful and reasonable, for example, exercise.
#4. Pray to Allah
Offer a great deal of du’aa (supplication) for him to be guided and set straight, for the best weapon of the believer is du’aa’. Endeavour hard to offer du’aa’ in the last third of the night and while prostrating.
#5. At long last, if what is said above does not succeed in putting a stop to that haraam relationship of his with that lady, then you have two choices:
a. You can encourage him to wed her as per the laws of Allah, in order to spare him and her from this haraam relationship, on condition that his association with her has not achieved the level of zina (infidelity) – Allah prohibits – in light of the fact that it is not reasonable to encourage somebody to accomplish something that is haraam, as their getting hitched won’t be passable until after they atone (from zina).
b. On the other hand, you can request a divorce, but first start by threatening to ask for it, then in the event that he stays as he is you have the privilege to search an exit from the cataclysm you are confronted with by requesting a separation. In spite of the torment of this searing (separation), it will give you an exit plan from the pain and outrage you are feeling, and it will shield you and your kids from the likelihood of fitnah (tribulation) on account of your significant other’s bad conduct and his haraam relationship, whether that security needs to do with your religious duty, honor or wellbeing.
May Allah grant us patience, and spouses that will fear Allah. Ameen.