Parenting is one of the most difficult and complicated responsibilities in life. Islam lays a lot of emphasis on parenting. In the Islamic view, the duty of a parent starts even before one brings a child into this world. It begins from the time of selecting a spouse for yourself. It is your duty to look for a good spouse for yourself who will be an example for your child to follow. This is the first and most crucial step in parenting. The provision of food, clothing, shelter and a good upbringing comes after this.
Children can bring a lot of joy into a family, but the responsibility of parents go beyond just laughing and playing with kids. They have legal and physical responsibilities towards their children, so they can grow up as productive and healthy adults who contribute to society.
Allah Almighty Says (interpretation of the meaning): “O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones” (At-Tahrim 66:6)
How do we ward off that fire from our families? The answer is we need to double up and show them the right way and teach them the difference between what is good and bad, as well as what is right and wrong. Children are a trust given to parents by Allaah. Parents will be held accountable for this trust on the Day of Judgment. Parents are essentially responsible for the moral, ethical and religious education of their children.
If parents fulfill this responsibility, they will be free from the consequences on the big day. The children will become better citizens and a pleasure to the eyes of their parents. This parental responsibility belongs not only to the father, but to the mother as well. Indeed the mother’s role may be even greater because of the time she spends with their children. Every mother should be totally conscious of her role and do her best to make it beneficial for the development of her children as they set out on the journey of life.
While it is clear that parental care and guidance is fundamental and very important to every child’s upbringing, some parents today instead busy themselves with their jobs or other engagements at the expense of spending time with their children. Some parents leave their children for hours unattended on the computer or on their phones. This should not be so.
Parents should get involved in the lives of their children and these include knowing what sites their children visit, what games they play and who their friends are. While over-parenting is wrong, a hands off attitude towards parenting also has devastating effects on the upbringing of children.