Marriage is a very sacred deed, especially in Islam, as the Qur’an teaches us the importance of it. The Qur’an states several emphasis on marriage and how and why it should be done.
As a man, when searching for a wife the most crucial principle one has to understand is that whatever pleases you about a woman will suffice. There are further clarifications in Islam on what are the qualities you should be looking for in a wife. This is one of the rights of your children upon you that you choose a good mother for them.
So what are the qualities men should seek to marry
#1. A righteous woman-
Out of all the qualities to seek for in a woman, I believe this is the most important quality amongst all.
Abu Hurairah, peace and blessings be upon him reported that the Prophet SAW said: “A woman is sought in marriage for four reasons; wealth, social status, beauty and deen (piety). So seek the one with deen – may you then be successful.” (Recorded inBukhari& Muslim).
The best property that a man can have is a woman that can remind him to fulfil his religious deeds, a grateful heart and a believing wife who helps him keep his faith strong.
On the authority of Abdullah bin Masud (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that Prophet SAW said: “Marry virgins, because they have sweeter mouths (i.e. speech) and more fertile wombs, and are easier to be satisfied with little wealth.” (Recorded by at-Tabarani). Seeking a virgin woman is important but not necessarily a recommended quality; thus the woman may not be a virgin but possesses some of the qualities we shall discuss further.
#3. A loving wife-
Another quality to seek in a woman is her ability to be loving and caring, as she’ll be understanding, patient and willing to cope with you during hard times.
Prophet Muhammad SAW said “The best of your women are those who are bearers of many children, loving, comforting, and tolerant – provided that they have taqwa to Allah. And the worst of your women are those who display their charms, and who walk with arrogance. Such are the hypocrites, and those of them who will enter the Jannah (Heaven) are as rare as are the red-beaked and red-legged crows.”
It was reported my Abdullah bin Masud (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that Prophet SAW said; “Marry virgins, because they have sweeter mouths (i.e. speech) and more fertile wombs, and are easier to be satisfied with little wealth.” (Recorded by at-Tabarani).
The physical appearance of a woman is another important quality to consider when seeking for a wife, because men are physical by nature, beauty is important.
On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him reported Allah’s Messenger SAW said: “The best of women is that who pleases him (husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he orders, and does not subject her person or money to what he dislikes.” (Recorded by Ahmad)
Marriage nowadays has been distorted. Most people especially youths marry for riches and several unimportant reasons according to Islam, so as a man it is crucial that you abide by the teachings of Islam in order to have a prosperous marriage.
That concludes today’s article, and please make sure to leave a comment below about your thoughts and ideas on today’s topic.