Enormous leverage is held by parents in terms of what they teach their children and how their children grow up as adults. Therefore, Islam hold parents responsible for steering the upbringing of their children according to the traditions of Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and the guidelines of the Quran.
Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’alla) states in the Quran (Chapter 66:6) thus:
O ye who believe! save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is Men and Stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who flinch not (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do (precisely) what they are commanded.
The Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) also said that “Allah will ask every caretaker about the people under his care, and the man will be asked about the people of his house hold.”
The following are useful pointers that will help parents in raising their kids into responsible Muslim adults:
#1.Inculcate the concept of “La Illaha Illa’Allah” in your children
It is required for parents to inculcate the correct aqeeedah (understanding) of the oneness of Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’alla), as well as all religious acts of worship needed for them to get close to Allah. Parents should also teach their children the rights of Allah and make them live on the concepts of Tawheed (oneness of Allah), this while also nurturing the love of Allah in them.
#2.Teaching Children the Noble Qur’an
Parents should make sure to teach their children the knowledge of the Qur’an and recite it regularly with them. The knowledge of the Qur’an will help children think beyond the mundane matters of this life.
#3.Teaching Children Islamic characters and Morals
Parents should teach their children from an early stage the Islamic characters, morals, and etiquette so these become part of their habit. Children should know the principles of humility, patience, tolerance, and other Islamic behavioral traits.
#4.Giving children Good Islamic Names
It is the responsibility of parents to give their children a good name in accordance with the traditions of Islam.
#5.Treating Children with Love and Mercy
It is obligatory on parents to show love and mercy to their children. This will make children love and respect their parents, elders, and other people in society.
#6.Treating Children Fairly
Parents should not show undue preference to their children based on certain criteria or gender. All children in a family have their own rights to be treated fairly. Treating your children unfairly can bring about feelings of jealousy and hatred amongst your children.
#7.Proper Education and Upbringing
Parents should provide their children with the right training in accordance with Islamic traditions. Parents should provide their children the best training that can help them live as responsible Muslim adults who fulfill the rights of Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’alla) and others.
#8.Teaching Children The Rights of Other Fellow Beings
Parents should teach their children about Huqul-Ibad, which is about respecting the rights of others and understanding their rights from an Islamic point of view. Parents should also teach their children skills that lead to earning in a Halal way.