Rights and responsibilities of a Muslim woman as a daughter-in-law

In many traditions and customs around the globe, particularly in Africa and Asia, a daughter-in-law is expected to serve her husband’s parents and family members, especially the mother-in-law. Although this is a good and polite act, which may sometimes breed love and acceptance between daughter and mother-in- law, it must be understood that this practice is not based on any Islamic teaching. Kindness of any sort is rewarding, but a lot of Muslims hold the misconception that it is obligatory on a woman to serve her in-laws. This is wrong. Here are the rights and responsibilities of a woman towards her husband and his family.
#1.The daughter in-law does not need to obey anybody among her in-laws, whether that is her husband’s dad, mother, siblings or sisters, in any matter, major or minor, unless they advise her to accomplish something which is required by, or deny her to accomplish something that is haraam. In such matters she needs to comply, whether that originates from a relative or an outsider, an in-law or any other individual.
#2. They don’t have the privilege to drive her to do anything like, how to cook, how to dress or different things, for example, working and showing and so on, unless that is by method for guidance and kind treatment, not by method for impulse.
#3. It is not permissible for them to meddle in her and her husband’s private issues, yet in the event that they persuade her husband not to go out on excursions and he instructs you to stay in the house, then comply with your husband, and be patient.
#4. Daughter-in-law does not need to solicit consent from any of them to visit her family; that is not their privilege. She needs to ask her husband’s consent, and on the off chance that he gives her authorization then she doesn’t need to solicit authorization from any from them.
#5. They don’t have the privilege to know the subtle elements of her life (she and her spouse), and it is not reasonable for her husband to let them know of any private or close matters among them.
#6. She has the right to have a different house in which she lives with her husband and kids, and she has the right to security, in the event that her husband needs her to live with his family, and he won’t resist his mom on the off chance that he permits you that. The shrewd and keen man measures things against the guidelines of sharee’ah, and gives every individual who is qualified for rights his or her due, and he doesn’t detract starting with one keeping in mind the end goal to give then onto the next.
#7. Her husband needs to respect his folks, and she ought to help him in that. She ought not be the reason for a split amongst him and them. She will see the results of that in her youngsters in sha Allah.
#8. With respect to her serving them and doing housework, she is not obliged to do that, but rather in the event that she does it as a demonstration of thoughtfulness towards them, or to satisfy her better half, that will be great and you will have the prize for that in sha Allaah. This is something that will bring her status up according to her better half and his family in this world, and will bring her up in status in the Hereafter as well, in sha Allah.
#9. There is nothing wrong with his folks living in the same spot with her if the house is sufficiently huge, and if that won’t bring about her any damage.
#10. Concerning her private life, his folks have no right to command her life. She should attempt to impart in a legitimate way with her husband and achieve a comprehension. On the off chance that he can resolve the matter, well and good, generally there is nothing amiss with her addressing his family in an astute and full grown way. In the event that they don’t react and the circumstance proceeds as it seems to be, then be patient and look for reward from Allah.
#11. As to her shaking hands with men who are not her mahrams amongst the spouse’s family or appearing before them without appropriate hijab, this is haraam. So she should not come out before the men who are not mahrams.
#12. It is not reasonable for her husband’s family to drive her to go to wedding gatherings or so in which there is sin. She has the right to reject it.
#13. Lastly, she should guarantee that she develops the house and not break it. She should do everything conceivable to keep everybody happy. A lady who keeps her husband glad, gets Jannah as the prize. Spouse’s joy is likewise in the joy and prosperity of his folks. So comprehend this and be strong. In some cases it might so happen that in the underlying years of your wedded life, you may must be extremely understanding and on doing as such, the later part of the wedded life turns out to be exceptionally excellent.
A daughter-in-law should be patient and understanding. She should understand that people are different and they think differently, but for the love she has for her husband, she must be patient and respectful against all odds. I would like to reiterate that it is a wonderful act for one to serve and be kind to her in-laws. Just because it is not compulsory to do a good act does not mean you should not. Do it for the sake of Allah, and also for the sake of your husband. Surely, it would please your husband very much to see his wife treat his parents well. However, the husband must be fair to his wife and makes sure she does not get oppressed. Allah knows best.

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