We communicate with people on a daily basis, and what’s better than learning some important types of etiquette that could improve our daily interactions We meet our siblings and sisters without stopping for even a minute. The sunnah of the Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam (peace and gifts of Allāh be upon him) has shown us everything including conduct and manners of speaking with individuals in gatherings, social occasions and somewhere else. If we somehow happened to take after the sunnah when speaking with individuals, we would gain ourselves a lot of prize, In sha Allah.
Along these lines, how about we review some incredible correspondence tips from the sunnah. In any case, before continuing, recollect that our aims must be unadulterated and genuine.
The Prophet (saw)said: “Your smiling in the face of your brother is charity.” [Jami ‘at Tirmidhi]. Before you start talking, smile! This is an instant ingredient to start any conversation positively and to remove any past ill feelings that could be present. Smiling brings joy to the giver and the receiver (imagine being both!).
Pay Consideration on the Tone and Volume of Your Voice
Beware of your tone and the volume of your voice. Your tone determines whether you will make your relationship or break it. Any undesirable loudness in your voice could put people off and make any further attempts to communicate futile.
“And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys.”
Begin with the Islamic welcome of peace
Whether you know this Muslim or not, the welcome of peace or saying ‘Assalaamu alaykum’ (peace be upon you) is prescribed. It will repulse contempt and make love between you.
“A man went to the Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam (peace and gifts of Allāh be upon him) and said: Peace be upon you! He reacted to his welcome. He then sat down. The Prophet ṣallallāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam (peace and gifts of Allāh be upon him) said: Ten [rewards]. Another man came and said: Peace and Allah’s kindness be upon you! He reacted to his welcome when he sat down. He said: Twenty. Another man came and said: Peace and Allah’s kindness and endowments be upon you! He reacted to him and said when he sat down: and endowments be upon you! He reacted to him and said when he sat down: Thirty.” [Sunan Abi Dawud] Habituate yourself with saying the full and complete greeting and earn 30 rewards simultaneously accompany your greeting with a handshake every single time you greet someone!
Inquire about people, ask them how they are doing and inquire about their health, well being and that of their families and friends. At the same time, keep in mind people’s different characteristics and differences while communicating. Try to be mindful of their age, status, temperament and other factors.
Cease from the regular shades of malice of the tongue
Individuals getting together and speaking with each other frequently prompts falling into different sins identified with the tongue, for example, discussing Allah subḥānahu wa ta’āla (celebrated and commended be He) without learning, criticizing, lying, annoying and reviling. These propensities are intolerable sins that destroy our prizes and the barakah in our lives: make it a propensity to guarantee whether anything you are going to say may constitute any of these transgressions. Furthermore, if you somehow managed to enjoy kidding, let the jokes be valid.
Choose simple, concise words
Avoid complex language and sophisticated terminologies. Instead, try to stick to concise words and phrases that are of eloquence and seek to be understood. The Prophet (saw) said:
“I have been given superiority over the other prophets in six respects: I have been given words which are concise but comprehensive in meaning”.
[Sahih Muslim] He spoke with clarity and made people comprehend easily, sometimes by even repeating his words thrice.
Try to avoid Arguments
Being nice is easy when you’re dealing with nice people. But, practically speaking, this world has more to it than such people. Despite your best efforts, you are bound to walk into not-so-nice people. Try not to fall into disputes and argumentation. In addition always depart with a smile, shake hands and greet with sallam and hug.
If you were to communicate in writing, in addition to the points above that are relevant, it is desirable to start your written communication with ‘Bismillaahir Rahmaanir Raheem’ [In the name of Allah, the Continuously Merciful, the Especially Merciful]. This was done by the Prophet (saw) numerous times when he dispatched letters to kings and heads of peoples and tribes.
saying only that which is good and beneficial, choosing to be patient and kind over being right, and always ending with a warm smile and the sallam: what a beautiful way to create love in your brother’s or sister’s heart for you!