What to Consider When Choosing A Spouse

In life, one of the most important choices you will need to make is who to marry. This choice is so important that if you miss it, you will suffer for long, if you get it right then you will enjoy forever.

A bad marriage can affect every other area of your life. This subject is so important to the extent that so many married people are hoping to be single again so as to be able to make the right choice all over again.

If you are single please don’t just be in a hurry to get married, because you still have the best opportunity to prepare for it. For two people to come together to live in peace and harmony, they must agree spiritually, mentally and physically.

Just like an elephant cannot marry an ant so also a believer cannot marry an unbeliever. If an elephant marries an ant how would they live, if a goat marries a fish where would they meet? You must look for a sincere and righteous man or a sincere and righteous woman to marry, nothing can beat this.

The devil’s primary target is the family. He knows that everyone belongs to a family and if he can bring two wrong people together in marriage, then he will succeed in breaking the community ties and the nation down as a whole, and this is part of what we’re witnessing all over the world presently.

Ignore your age and the pressure for a moment, the pressure in a wrong marriage is far worse. ALLAH has somebody for you but you must set your priorities right. For the man, the question is what do you need in a woman? Four the woman, the question is what do you need in a man?

Marriage is not about what you want, it is about who you need, that will make you better while you make him better; it’s not just something you jump into. That is why you must know your purpose before you get married.

You must pray before you choose a spouse. ALLAH knows the best person for you; it is only wise to seek His will. It is very easy to know ALLAH’s will when sex is not involved. The moment sex is involved and you want to know His will then He will blank you out. This is because you have broken His first Law of No Sex before marriage. If you have had sex in the past then you need to repent totally and stay away from each other, then you can seek forgiveness from ALLAH.

Your marriage shouldn’t be hell on earth but rather it should be honorable. Don’t marry for sex, don’t marry because you are of age, don’t marry because you are getting old, don’t marry because you are lonely, don’t marry because you need someone to support you financially, don’t marry because you mistakenly got pregnant or got some girl pregnant, don’t marry because you don’t want to lose the person, don’t marry because of family pressures, don’t marry because you like the idea of marriage and admire every wedding gown you see, don’t marry because all your friends are getting married.

But get married because you want to fulfill what ALLAH has ordained on every slave of His. Get married because you want to be a help mate, but most of all, because you want to fulfill a purpose of having completed half of your religion, your deen. ALLAH will help you in choosing. Please let’s all continue to pray patiently to Allah for all we want. He loves us so dearly and He will answer all our Du’as and supplications at the right time.

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