How to Treat Your Parents

Parents are to be respected and treated well at all times. The fact that they kept us safe to adulthood alone is reason enough. It is also a great act to treat our parents well which Allah SWT will reward us for in this life and the next. It has been emphasized in the Qur’an in many verses. One of which says: “Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and ye be kind to your parents.” (Qur’an 17:23) It is important that we be grateful to our parents. Allah SWT has told us that whenever ww give thanks to Him, we should also give thanks to our Parents: “And we have enjoined on man (To be good) to his parents: In travail upon travail did his mother bear him. And in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command), ‘Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.'” (Qur’an 31:14)

On the authority of Abu Usaid Malik Ibn Rubia Al-Saedi (R.A), who said: While we were sitting with the Prophet (S.A.W.) a man of the Bani Salamah tribe came and said: “O Prophet (S.A.W.)! Is there anything, I can now do in benevolence towards my parents after their death? The Prophet (S.A.W.) answered: “Yes, by praying for them and soliciting mercy and forgiveness towards them, fulfilling their promises and undertakings, doing kindness to those who may be related to you through them, and respecting their friends.” – (Abu Daoud)

One must also show tolerance towards parents. When they grow old, they become short-tempered and we must try to please them and avoid doing things that would hurt their feelings. We should try to be tolerant and cheerful and avoid retorting to anger and frustration. It is mentioned in the Holy Qur’an: “Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them but address them, in terms of honor.” (Qur’an 17:23)

Parents should be served sincerely and genuinely. This will lead to a reward from Allah SWT. We should also love our parents. Hadrat Ibn Abbas narrates the following Hadith of the Holy Prophet (PBUH): “Dutiful and good natured children who cast one loving and affectionate look at their parents, receive from The Almighty blessing equivalent to one approved Hajj (pilgrimage).” – (Muslim)

It is mentioned in the Holy Qur’an: “And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Thy mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.” (Qur’an 17:24) this shows that we should always pray for your parents and remember the times they took care of us when we were younger and how our mothers carried us in their wombs when we were a fetus. It is stated in the Holy Qur’an: “We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents: In pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth.” (Qur’an 46:15)

On the Authority of Abu Hurairah (R.A.),who said: A man asked the Messenger of God (S.A.W.) who amongst his near ones had the greatest right over him, the Prophet (S.A.W.) replied: “Your mother”. He asked, “Then who is next?” The Prophet (S.A.W.) replied: “Your mother”. He again asked, “Then who is next?” The Prophet (S.A.W.) replied: “Your mother”. He asked: “Then who is next?” The Prophet replied: “Your father.” – (Bukhari and Muslim) On the authority of Al-Mughirah (R.A.), who said: The Prophet (S.A.W.) said: “God forbids all of you to disobey your mothers.” – (Bukhari and Muslim)

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