Married couples are not permitted to engage themselves in any intimate activity which may possibly result in sex while fasting. However, there several other ways to express your love in a more Halal and acceptable manner during Ramadan.
Consequently, it’s also crucial to recall that while intercourse during the day is strictly forbidden, after Maghrib and until the beginning of Fajr the following morning, re-commencing intimate relations with your spouse in not prohibited.
This article sheds light and gives your tips as well as recommendations as to how to create time for your spouse, and most importantly bond with them more during Ramadan- especially for women who’re seeking assistance in strengthening your iman as a wife during this holy month.
Here are a few recommendations:
Allah says in the ayah:
“It has been made permissible for you the night preceding fasting to go to your wives [for sexual relations]. They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them. Allah knows that you used to deceive yourselves, so He accepted your repentance and forgave you. So now, have relations with them and seek that which Allah has decreed for you. And eat and drink until the white thread of dawn becomes distinct to you from the black thread [of night]. Then complete the fast until the sunset. And do not have relations with them as long as you are staying for worship in the mosques. These are the limits [set by] Allah, so do not approach them. Thus, does Allah make clear His ordinances to the people that they may become righteous?” [Qur’an: Chapter 2, Verse 187]
#1. Make time for your spouse
Some of you may ask, ‘how do I make time for myself during Ramadan, much less how to find quality time to spend with my husband?’ To be honest, life can be a bumpy road during Ramadan and it sure isn’t going to be easy, especially with young children, where you’ll have more responsibilities. However, the best way to deal with this funny predicament is much preparation and thoughts of what really matters: our final destination, Jannah, or how do we achieve Jannah? Pleasing your husband is one of the ways a woman will enter Paradise husband, as the Prophet Muhammad said:
“Whichever woman dies while her husband is pleased with her, then she enters Paradise.” [At-Tirmidhi]
#2. Eat suhoor and iftar with your husband
Another great way to spend time with your husband is by eating suhoor and iftar with him, as it is an excellent way to bond with him during this holy month. In addition, it also serves as a great opportunity for both of you to discuss your Ramadan goals as well as reminding each other that you are both fasting for Allah’s sake.
After your husband breaks his fast, try to prepare for a light meal later in the evening to compensate. Although it will not be easy to do on a day-to-day basis, try to do this at least two or three evenings a week. The main aim here is to have a calm and stress-free environment in which you both can to connect emotionally and enjoy each other’s presence.
#3. Have your husband help out
Seeking assistance from your husband during their most stressful times is another great way to show your care. Doing so will help keep him distracted as he’ll focus more on family instead of stress from work. If you’re a mother with young children, then I’m sure you’ve had a front row seat to this show. There are multiple through which your husband can help you out during Ramadan, such as taking out the trash, babysitting or perhaps going to buy groceries. Having this type of relationship with your husband will help strengthen the love between you and your husband. You can have a discussion regarding this topic before Ramadan begins and suggest tasks he should take care of.
#4. Encourage each other
You and your spouse have a duty to encourage each other, not only during Ramadan but throughout your marriage. Activities such as reciting the Holy Qur’an, duah and memorizing suras are the
obligatory aspects both of you are obliged to remind each other.
#5. Make dua in secret
The holy month has several opportunities for dua to be accepted. Therefore, for a prosperous and joyous life and marriage, offer as much as prayers as you can to Allah in order for the Almighty to continue to shower blessing upon your marriage. Abu Dharr reported that Allah’s Messenger said:
“There is no believing servant who supplicates for his brother behind his back (in his absence) that the Angels do not say: The same be for you too.” Muslim.
Ramadan is a month that’s demanding, but if you put in all of your sincere efforts towards maintaining a healthy and prosperous marriage, as well as fulfilling your obligations to God, your actions will definitely be rewarded. Have a blessed Ramadan in advance!