Unity, peace and obedience are essential in every family between children and their parents. In Islam, showing obedience to parents is the fastest way of earning blessings from them and from Allah.
Obeying parents is a direct commandment of Allah. The word obey cannot be separated from the idea of honoring them. Honor your parents so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy life on earth.
Therefore, every Muslim must show goodness and mercy to his parents throughout their lives. The Qur’an says the only time a child should say no to his parents and disobey them is when they are asked to something that is not allowed by Allah including committing sins, lying and so on. If not, the children must show love and gratitude to their parents.
#1.Being patient and tolerant with parents
Everyone makes mistakes, if parents do something bad that is against the religion or against the wish of their children, it becomes the responsibly of the child to have patience and tolerance. Instead of venting out in anger, children must take great care not to react wrongly to what their parents have said or done. It is a great sin to dishonor parents.
#2.Always pray for their well being
It is the duty of every Muslim to continue praying for their parents upon their death. Muslims should ask Allah to forgive their parents after their passing. Such prayer will be regarded as a continuous charity as the prophet (Sallallahu ‘Alayhi wa Salam) has informed us.
#3.The greater right of the mother
In families, mothers are the most important as they traditionally spend most of their time taking care of their children. As a result, a child’s gratitude should be more towards their mother.
#4.Know your duties
When a child comes of age, it becomes their duty to provide for their parents at all cost if they are able to do so. Showing them kindness, compassion, gratitude, reverence and respect, praying for them and supporting them financially if they are in need are incumbent upon every Muslim who has one or both parents alive.
Allah sums this in the Quran saying:
“And We have enjoined upon man (care) for his parents: His mother carried him, (increasing her) in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and your Parents; to Me is the final destination”. (Chapter 31:14)